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Dear StarBright...

I wish that he would love me and we would be happy

Dear JG

You will NEVER be happy until you love yourself. NEVER, EVER NEVER!

Please don't waste any more of your life looking for other people to love you to make you feel happy.

First you love yourself, then you love other people and if you are lucky you may get a few people to love you. If more people practiced the first rule of love, which is to LOVE YOURSELF, then there would be more people who would be able to give love.

It's actually quite simple, but people make finding the the hardest thing in the world.

Practicing loving yourself and see how love flows into your life. :0)

Dear StarBright...I am working with my daughter uncle, from my X-husband side. His birth date is 8/13/1959. We spend allot of time together, and it seems like he always wants me around, he is always looking out for me and my daughers 20 and 22 year old. I feel like he likes me just like I like him, but he never mentions how he feels, but he alway talks in the future as though we are a couple. I'm very attracted to him to. I have been divorced for 7 years now.

I don't even date because I feel like I will betray him. I don't want to make the first move "What if I scare him" I know your verry busy but I hope you can help

Hello Ana

It's 2008, women ask men out now you know....although I will never do this! lol it's just a principle I have.

Listen up, nobody is ever getting younger and you are a fully grown women. You have the right to take the lead and ask a guy out. If he gets scared because you asked him, then he isn't a very strong man and who wants to be with a man who is afraid of a woman who takes the initiative?

Making the first move can be quite scary, but what is the alternative?

Waiting for the other person to make the first move? What if they are afraid to make the first move too? That means neither of you will be making a move and you will both be going nowhere. What could happen if you ask him?

1. He says YES

2. He say NO

3. He says Hell Yeah! (we like this option ;0) )

4. He says NO I'm gay. (Hmmm)

Let me tell you, you don't know how long your life is going to be. It can be long or short, but you don't know the duration, so you might as well live your life like it is going to be short. When you die, nobody will care if he said NO, not even you, but if he says YES and you have a happy relationship together, then you will be glad you took that chance! Everything is a chance really, you just have to way up the pros and cons. The worse thing is he may say no and you feel a little uncomfortable for a while, but then this leaves you free to look for somebody else, here is a pro, even from a con. You can't really lose then. ;0)

The only thing I would feel awkward about is that he is the ex husband's brother, but this doesn't bother you, so why are you afraid of letting him know how you feel?

C'mon, be brave TAKE A CHANCE! I am strangely singing the Abba song now, hehe

Good Luck! :0)

Dear StarBright...

Thanks for helping us see the light !

For the past 5-6 months I've been involved with an achieved man, 20 years my senior.

It all started perfectly, but gradually, maybe in his effort to impress me, or out of self-flattery, he started telling me about his youth (600+) relationships, including some Miss Universe and gorgeous women.

He often says "As I was playing the guitar, my mate's girlfriend kissed and hugged me 'n said "oh, george, how lovely you play n'sing!"

Also, he's always busy, has got 3-4 cellular phones constantly ringing, plus he's really good at making excuses. I.E. in order to see me, he tells his colleagues excuses about meetings.

Although I've got no proof of his infidelity, I just don't trust him.

Please help !

SCORPIO MOON XXX

Dear Scorpio Moon

I'm not being funny, but this guy sounds like a bit of a jerk doesn't he?

Bragging about having sex with more than 600 women? All that means to me is sexually transmitted diseases and sexual immaturity! I don't know why men think us women will be impressed by their sexual promiscuity. When a man says he has had lots of sexual partners, he is telling me he lives in his base chakra (the red coloured and least evolved chakra) and that having sex with him will probably be a major disappointment as multiple partners doesn't mean you are better in bed, it usually means the opposite!

If you are used to using your instincts and your intuition and they have never failed you, then trust them if they are telling you this guy is dodgy. I have never met a woman who has had "that feeling"

about their partners and it turning out to be wrong.

If you are simply just feeling insecure about the relationship, then you need to sort out the insecurities within yourself.

I think the fact that he is making up stuff to come and see you isn't a good sign and I personally NEVER trust a guy who has three mobile phones, especially if they are ringing all the time.

Best thing to do is to ask him straight out and see how he responds.

If you still feel like he is suss after that, then it's Columbo time!

Start investigating. Some women need proof and others just know, but us women don't have that special intuition for nothing, so use and trust it.

Even if this guy turns out to be faithful, I don't think he sounds so nice rubbing ex females he says he has had relations with in your face. That is just ill mannered and disrespectful to you. He should go and stroke his old ego with somebody else. When he is with you he should be focusing on you, not some fantasy past life. He proves growing old doesn't mean growing up! LOL

If he is a player, go tell him to find another playmate! ;0)

Dear StarBright...I have made contact with 2 peple on this sight and they tell me similar things but a little vague. There is a man in my life who has been an incredible angel ,in the last while I can tell things are changing emotionally for both of us. One problem he`s married, I`m confused and curious as we have come together under incredible circumstances. I alsofeel we know each other from a past life, he`s like being home. I could sure use your input

M

I don't do fortune telling, so I can only give you input on what I think using my knowledge, experience and common sense.

If somebody is married, they are married.....don't go there! It doesn't mean that you can't have a connection with them, or a special feeling or whatever, but they are still married so pursing a relationship with a married person is not a good idea and is disrespectful to yourself, the person's spouse and any children they may have. Also, pursing a relationship with a married person has a high chance of bringing you serious heartache and hurt.

This man may well be an angel for you, but that could be all he is. I think he has helped you so much and in such a wonderful way that you have been overwhelmed by him and with what he has done for you and this has made you super attracted to him. Your feeling of a past life connection could be true. If you are really curious as to whether there is a past life connection, I suggest you have a past life regression with a recommended and trusted past life regression therapist who is of the light, because there are a lot of dark workers in disguise of light workers working in the spiritual realm, you have to be wary, so check the person out and use your instincts.

If you are fated soulmates and you are meant to be together in this incarnation, then you will end up together, have no doubt of this.

Not all soulmates are meant to get together and run off into the sunset and live happily ever after. Soulmates come into our lives from as little as 5 minutes to as long as forever and for many different reasons. This man may be in your life to give you the help that you needed and that is it. Yes, you feel a connection, but the connection doesn't mean you a necessarily should be getting together on earth, in this incarnation.

This man is married to another women in his incarnation on earth. If he is supposed to be with you, he would divorce his wife and you would both get together. Fated soulmate connections, as in the person you are meant to spend the rest of your life with, usually happen instantaneously. You said that you feel your emotions are changing for both of you, this sounds like a gradual attraction, probably fueled by your time spent together, rather than a sudden moment of enlightenment of your feelings for each other.

You have already asked two other people from the website and now myself. Although it is good to seek guidance and ask for advice, the true answers to our questions are always within ourselves if we dare to look inside and be honest with ourselves.

I say enjoy this beautiful connection you have had with this other soul. These connections can be rare and you have been blessed to have it. Don't read more into the connection than what it really is.

Don't dishonour it by starting an affair with a married man. Who knows, your paths may cross again in the future and you may end up together. Don't force anything, it will happen if it is meant to be.

Have faith in love and let your life unfold. :0)

Dear StarBright... Help me through this dark spell I feel that I am under. I do not know what to do with my life. Should I stay with my husband or should I leave? Thanks for your help.

RRM

Only you know the answer to this question.

If you are unhappy with your husband, as in he is the problem you are unhappy, then leave. Staying with somebody who makes you feel miserable is simply wrong.

If you are the source of your unhappiness, then you have to sort yourself out. Some people are deeply unhappy because of what is going on within themselves, but they try to project their unhappiness onto somebody else, especially in relationships. This means people leave relationships thinking the source of their unhappiness is the other person, but it isn't, so they live in a perpetual cycle of splitting up with somebody because they are unhappy and blame the other person, then running into another relationship hoping the new person will make them happy.

Why don't you know what to do with your life? There are so many things you could do with your life, there isn't enough paper in the world for me to write them all down! There are people in the world with disabilities, obstacles, boundaries and facing prejudice who are out there achieving all kinds of wonderful things and living fulfilled lives. Read stories about people's lives who have achieved against all odds. There are lots to choose from and these people will inspire you to activate yourself.

What is stopping you from living your life? Is it you? If it is you, have a serious conversation with yourself. Make up your mind that you don't want to be under the dark spell any more. Once you decide you don't want to be under it, you will move in the right direction.

Find the true source of your unhappiness, then work from there. :0)

Dear StarBright...My heart is torn between two people and I'm confused on if I should hold on to someone I still love but am mending from a broken heart or pursue my new interest that I am fond of. I'm so confused and need some light shed on knowing what to do. My ex is a capricorn and my new interest is an aries.

Wishful,

You are so confused between these two people, I advice you take some time out with yourself and take time to just be yourself, without the confusion of partners and potential partners. If you have a broken heart, you can't heal it with another person. You have to let your heart heal and then you can move on into a healthy and happy relationship.

Give your soul space to breath and heal. :0)

Dear StarBright...i had a relationship for last six months...we broke up.. i still care about him..what can i do..forget him or fight for him...

Martina,

You can't fight for somebody to love you or want to be with you. If you feel like you have to fight for them, then it is obvious the other person doesn't want you and even if they did decide to come back to you, they haven't come back because they wanted to, only because you displayed desperate behaviour. When you display desperate behaviour the other person will feel like you want them more than they want you and feel like they have power over you and the relationship and this could lead to all kinds of manipulating situations.

If your ex decided to break up with you, then fighting for them is an even bigger mistake. If you broke up with your ex, then he may get back with you just to break up again, but making sure he breaks up with you first. Childish, but it happens.

As I keep saying, people break up for a reason. If the reasons why you broke up are still there, why would you want to get back together again? On he other hand, if you both think you have both made a mistake breaking up, that's BOTH of you, not just you, talk it through, setting new ground rules so you don't make the same mistakes again.

Going over old ground again may be comfortable, but treading new paths can be far more exciting and bring more learning :0)

Dear StarBright...

Oh dear - I'm so glad to hopefully have found a caring soul who might be able to guide me a little. After a 30 year gap (yes 30 years!) I have made contact again with my very first true love. The contact has continued over the last 6 months gradually becoming more intense. The problem is that things have now slowed down massively and I am confused. Does this have a future or was it just a flash in the pan so to speak. I know that the feelings between us are mutual, but don't know where this is going next. We are both already in long term relationships and there is a long distance element to this.

I would be so grateful for your guidance or advice.

Hello SW

The return of the true love after many, many years is bound to rekindle positive and exclusive emotions within you. 30 years is a long time and if the 30 years have been spent in relationships that haven't measured up to your true love, then his return will be even more welcomed and well received.

Actually, as I read your email again, did you say that you made the contact, as in you initiated recontact? If this is the case, you must be unhappy in your present long term relationship? You started to reminisce about your first true love and decided to contact him to see what he has up to, if he was still single and to see if you would magically come back together again and rekindle what you had 30 years ago....am I right?

I am sure your true love enjoyed the trip down love's memory lane, but it sounds like he has had enough reminiscing and is now going to get on with his life and his present relationship.

My advice is if you are unhappy in your relationship, you need to do something about it. This doesn't include trying to start something else with an old flame or anybody else whilst you are still in a relationship. You and your ex had a nice time flirting for 5 months, he has realised that through this flirting he actually wants his present partner and for yourself the flirting has left you confused.

This is what I suggest you do. If you feel your present relationship is not satisfying you, you need to move on or stay unsatisfied. Be sure that you are not moving on for superficial reasons and you're not just going through some kind of a emotional crisis. Lots of people stay in relationships because they are comfortable and serve a purpose, which is fine for them if this is what they want, but if you want a soul connection you have to go for a soul connection, which can be harder to find, but it most definitely worth the wait.

Keep it real and you will be happy. :0)

Dear StarBright...

Hi. Your site is so interesting--and you give such good, honest, advice. I could use some now. At my age, it seems kind of silly, but I have recently been in contact with an old college friend. Both of us are married, with children, and we live very far away from each other. However, we have been in constant contact for the past 5 months, and have realized our feelings for each other have grown tremendously. We are both in unfulfilling, floundering marriages, and are both in counselling with our spouses. we have 7 children between us--and they must come first. We are torn. Do we reunite, and hurt our families, or do we stay with our families, sending the message to our children that unfulfillment is what they should look for in a marriage? I don't want to hurt anyone--but I don't want to live with regrets either. Any thoughts, suggestions, comments?

My dear Lydie

This must be one of the hardest and most difficult crossroads in your life!

I had to pause for some serious thought here as we both know what you would like to do but it may possibly brings lots of hurt to everybody.

I am a supporter of true love connections and even though it hurts people and disrupts people's lives, I will always say to a person to follow the love in their heart, if it is love that they want. Having said this, I am aware of the gravity of this kind of a decision and making this kind of decision takes some serious bravery.

This is how I see it. You are not happy in your marriage. You did the right thing and went for counselling. You are trying to improve your marriage, you are not running away from it. Despite this, you can still see it isn't really working and deep down, despite your efforts, you know that you will never be happy in your present marriage. The drive to make things work seems to only come from the desire to do right by your children, not to do right by your husband.

You have more love for your children, because you put them first, so you feel your happiness goes out of the window.

This may look like a grim state of affairs, but actually I think it is an opportunity to set things straight and to move on for you and your husband. If the marriage is unfufiling and floundering for you, I suspect it is the same for your husband and that he is only going to counselling for the sake of the kids as well. A lot of parents stay together for the sake of the children which isn't the best of ideas.

You have already said that you will be sending the wrong message to your children. You know in your heart that you must end your marriage, you just want to do it with as little collateral damage as possible.

Each family is different. How well a decision to leave your husband will be received depends on your family and the level of emotional maturity they have. Are your kids younger or teens? Do you have a close relationship with them? Do you talk with them, share with them, etc? All these factors and more will come into play. Your husband, even if he does feel the same way as you, may still be resistant to ending the marriage, making it harder for you to move on into the life you really want to be living. Then on top of all of that, if you do manage to leave the marriage before the kids are of adult age, there could be a whole load of problems with your step children and step family. Now that's a whooooole other show!

I repeat..."This must be one of the hardest and most difficult crossroads in your life!" Right, pause.....time for a hug, squeeze.........now back to business!

THE BE SURE CHECKLIST

1. Be sure in your heart that your marriage is dead.

2. Be sure that you are not using your college friend as a faster escape from your marriage.

3. Be sure of the true intentions of your college friend concerning yourself.

4. Be sure you will accept whatever is the outcome from your decision.

We need love and to be in a loving relationship no matter what age we are, so don't think that you are acting silly because of your age and you should know better. If anything, the older you are the more you should sort your life out and really go for what you want, because the longer we are here, the less time we have before we go back. Time is precious on earth and we never know how long our life is going to be, so my mantra is to make as much of your life that you have control of as happy and filled with love as you can. If this is the only lesson you can teach your kids, you have taught them well. ;0)

Not everything is for ever, including marriages. It can be sad to split up, but it may be the best thing for everybody in the long run.

You certainly don't sound like a person who has bolted at the first sign of unhappiness or trouble. I believe you have thought this through long and hard taking everybody into account. You are not being selfish, you are just trying to stay true to yourself and do right by your children.

At the end of the day, if a marriage is dead, it's dead. It should be buried in love and with all concerned paying their respects and moving on. If it is dead this is the point you are at and where you need to move forward from. Anybody wanting to hang on to a dead marriage spouse, child or relative needs to let go no matter how hard it is.

Take a deep breath, make a commitment to yourself to be happy in your life and follow your heart with wisdom. Please allow yourself to have happiness in your life. You need it and the world needs it! :0)

Sending you stacks of loving support and another hug!

Dear StarBright... I am so confused! Can you help me? I am going to be getting a divorce (the sooner the better). I recently met a man who makes my heart just do cartwheels when I think of him and talk to him, and when I don't hear from him I get down. His wife just left him, he asked me to be his friend, which I don't mind, but I know I would like something more - is he the one for me?

Dear DL

I wouldn't recommend rushing into any relationship after your divorce.

Enjoy your freedom, balance and centre yourself before you get involved romantically with somebody else.

This person you feel makes your heart do cartwheels may not feel the same way as you do. When he says he wants to be friends, he may just mean friends. If you go into the relationship wanting more and he doesn't respond to your desires in the way you want him to, you will get hurt and coming off the back of a divorce, it will be worse.

Take your time, enjoy your freedom, find yourself again and see where this takes you. :0)

Dear StarBright...

I sometimes feel as an idiot that I constantly help other people to my expense whereas others are not so helpful some times..

But I am drawn to do that.. People told me I have to grow up and learn to be an adult.. I am tired of seing people that deserve less and step on others to 'suceed"

What is my purpose in this life? I am drawn to help others because I have to??

Help..

Dear VP

Are you Pisces??? lol Sounds like it. ;0)

Don't let horrid people put you off helping others. Yes helping others may well be your destiny, it should be everybodys' destiny, but there are certain people who always do the extra. You will eventually find a way of doing this without it being at your own expense and martyring yourself. It will eventually come with age and wisdom.

Being somebody who chooses to help all the time is a special gift and vocation. Do you want to be like all the other selfish and thoughtless people on the planet? I doubt it. They may always end up with what they want, but in the end they gain nothing, because the real gains in life are how you are as a person, how you treat other people and what you do for other people in a good way. You won't get rewards for it and not even respect a lot of the times, but God recognises what you do and your soul is nourished by it and the earth and the universe benefits. Just the fact the you are in the world doing good by people benefits the entire planet and life it's self.

As humans we can be so unaware or short sighted about the total effects of our personal actions good or bad.

When you do a kind act or help somebody, the giver benefits, the receiver benefits and anybody watching the act of kindness benefits from it too. That's a whole lot of benefiting! ;0)

Your family are right, you have to grow up, but probably not in the way they may be thinking. It's not so much growing up, but becoming wiser and more mature about to whom, how, when and how much help you distribute to people. Also, it should never be at your own cost, even if you have the urge to do this, try and refrain from it. If you are Pisces you will find this near impossible, so good luck to you! ;0) BUT, it isn't impossible. I am Pisces and I have learnt the better way and it wasn't easy. Even now, I still have to be ever vigilant of slipping into being a martyr.

We live in a world, in the west at least where people who are selfish and step on people are rewarded for their behaviour and people who do the opposite seem to get no where. Shame on us for creating and allowing such a society. Pay no mind to these kinds of people. They are who they are and you are who you are, don't let them bother you too much.

Unfortunately, because you help people, those very same people you help are not necessarily going to help you when you need it. Don't be put out by this. You shouldn't give to receive, yes it would be nice if they could be there for you in the same way that you were there for them, but it is unlikely. This is why what you do to help people is so important. Not everybody will do it, in fact hardly anybody will do it, so don't expect it from everybody.

Continue to help people, just become wiser at doing it. Instead of just helping people on a personal level, join or even create an organisation that can help people. Even better, help to teach people to become people who help. When you help somebody, show them how they can do it too, this way you get to help and create more helpers in the world as well.

Don't ever feel like an idiot when you help people who you find out later, may not have deserved it. The most intelligent thing to do on earth is to help people, not pass a degree with honours or work out how to split an atom, or do 5 figure sums in your head. The highest intelligence is LOVE. So you just remember how intelligent you are!

;0)

Stay on the path of helping people, learn from your helping, respect what you do, even if others don't and keep the faith in helping others. :0)

Dear StarBright... i found this site tonight and it has given me hope for light at end of a long dark tunnel that has been my whole life just a question do we at the tender age of 60 have the right to know our name our b d our family the government says no and if i were to return to the vital records and ask again i would be charged with federal crimmanl trespass if i returned this for being a key figure in there dirty work and cover up as a child with a family caught in

the middle of it taking and splitting the family and all memory of

family forever is this america the free don or? summer of 1947

Dear V R B

Is America free? Is any country free?

I don't know the laws on this issue in America, but talking to a lawyer will help clarify for you where you stand. I don't completely understand you letter, but if there has been a cover up on your details, then you need professional help to find out what you need to know.

Maybe you could advertise and see if anybody else is in the same situation and you could all get together. There is strength in numbers and you could all support each other. In my opinion, information about yourself should never be withheld from you, especially by government authorities.

I wish you the best of luck getting what you need. :0)

I recentlylost my husband.I have been withhim since i was 15. We had so much faith that he would iive.We prayed so hard.Now I'm left empty and questioning my faith. Any words of encouragement

Dear JS

I am so sorry for the lost of your husband. He sounded like he was your life partner and friend in life, so I know you must be really feeling the loss and the gap that he has left.

Losing a loved one is near impossible to get over, in fact we don't get over the loss, we just adjust to it. We don't have control over a person's life destiny in terms of death. If it is their time to go, it is there time to go. We can do lots of things to try and keep them with us, but in the end their life path plays out.

I understand when a person has a lot of faith and prays like crazy and then doesn't get what they prayed for, it is a serious knock to their faith. It is actually devastating. Lots a people are taught that if you pray long enough and hard enough you will get exactly what you want and how you want it. We are told if we are a good person, only good things will happen to you and all bad things and people will pass us by. Not true, unfortunately.

I know it is hard to except the loss of your husband, especially if he was a good person and if you are too, but here is the situation you are in now and the process of dealing and processing the loss starts now and may be a long and difficult road.

You will probably have to adjust your ideas of what your faith is. I have faith that people have life plans and they live them out.

Mostly, we don't know our own life plans, nevermind somebody else's.

They only thing you should have faith in is LOVE. I don't have faith in anything else. If you loved your husband and he loved you, have faith that the love you share is still around. Wherever he is, he is still loving you. Have faith that wherever he is, he is OK. Have faith that he is looking out for you from the other side, even if you decide to marry again. Don't have faith in anything that can't delivery what it promises.

Your feeling of emptiness will go away eventually. It takes time to heal from the loss of your husband and from the knock to you faith.

Be kind to yourself and take your time healing. Address any issues you may have with your faith, don't hide from them and eventually you will come back to your faith in a new way or find something else for yourself.

All the best to you. :0)

Dear StarBright... i have been married for many years. While I as separated I met JK and he would like me to live with him. In the mean time my husband asked me if we could try again. I don't know what to do.

Hello MH

Your heart is torn in two different directions, it is natural to be confused.

The time of separation has given you the space to sort out how you feel about your husband. If you wanted to be with him again, you probably wouldn't have fallen for somebody else. The separation has opened your heart to somebody else and this is a significant step.

Remind yourself why you separated in this first place. Are the things that were wrong in the marriage still there? If they are, why would you go back to that? People separate and in most cases it is women who initiate the separation because deep down they want to finish the relationship or marriage, but in a slow and smoothed out way. They have already decided that it is over, but they don't want t hurt their partner too much, or they are too scared to say it is over.

Some people separate and they genuinely see it as a limited amount of time to get some space and seriously access the relationship, but in their heart, they intend to come back.

How do you really feel about JK? How do you you really feel about your husband? Is JK just an extra marital fling? Is your husband the real love you want to be with, despite your problems?

Separation from a spouse should be a time of reflection, not a time to get hooked up with somebody else, because this only complicates the whole situation. I think separation can be a really positive move if it is taken seriously and not used for an excuse to see other people.

If you decide to go back to your husband, be sure to sort out all the problems you had before. Start a new page and seek professional guidance if you can.

Follow your heart, not your head, but use wisdom in your decision. :0)