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Dear StarBright...Star light, star bright, first star I see tonight, I wish I may, I wish I might Have this wish I wish tonite...PEACE ON EARTH - Is this where you derive your name? Me

Hello ME

No it isn't but I like that saying, thank you sharing that.

Peace on earth to you and your kin.....and I hope all of your good wished come true! ;0)

Dear StarBright...let me get a job to leave the state of TEXAS FAST!

Dear Nan

LOL, Seeing as the Bushes come from there, I'd want to leave fast too if I was you!

Say 10 times every night before you go to bed. I HAVE A NEW JOB THAT TAKES ME OUT OF TEXAS AND TO A BETTER PLACE.

You can boost the affirmation by saying it in the morning and in the middle of the day (12pm) and by adding visualisation as well.

The best of luck! :0)

Dear StarBright...

I'm going through a really troubling and confusing time and could use some vision and clarity.

I am still in love with my ex boyfriend. Although I know that at present, we cannot be together. We both have some growing and healthy development to undergo before we can give to eachother 100%. He has anxiety and some other personal problems which I know he must conquer in order to be ready to be in a happy healthy relationship. No matter how much I try to remind myself of these things, I just cant seem to "get over him." I've lost interest in other men, in dating, in physical relationships... I just plain don't care about them. This is not to say I do not try to date and meet men, I do, very much so but my ex is just so very very different- we connected on a soul level. I feel silly saying/feeling all this but now that we are apart, I feel like Ive lost a part of myself I cannot regain. To top it off, none of my friends understand... I can explain my hurt and sadness but all they can muster is the old "plenty of fish in the sea" or "move on"

cliches. I feel alone, sad, guilty for not being able to care about another besides my ex. I feel completely unplugged from the universe and indifferent. The ultimate rub is that whenever I run into my ex, he seems the same as I do, maybe thats just my imagination or wishful thinking but in a way I just sense he misses me too. Not exactly the growth that was supposed to happen for either of us when we parted.

Please help StarBright... I feel so desperately alone.

Dear Sad

Despite you know you are doing the right thing by being apart from your partner now, the pain of separation is really hard for you.

Don't be too hard on your friends. They are not you and they are not part of the relationship you had, so it will be really hard for them to really understand or try and understand what you are going through emotionally, especially if they are not empathetic.

This storm you are going to have to weather, because you know without going through this difficult time, there is absolutely no healthy emotional future for either of you if you want to get back together.

The separation has been very dramatic and traumatic for you and your feelings are overwhelming, but it won't be like this forever, the pain will ease and you will heal from the hurt. I suspect feeling as if you are alone and not being able to talk about how you feel is making the process worse.

Your ex may be feeling the same as you, but what are you going to do?

Get back together at this stage where the necessary healing has not been done and ruin the relationship again? No, you have to do your emotional and spiritual work, both of you.

It is probably a good thing at the moment that you can't connect with another potential boyfriend. It sounds like to me you need to reconnect with yourself and start to focus on yourself and rebuild yourself. You and you partner sounded like you were one unit and now that you are not together, you feel completely loss and miss him like a part of your body. You sound so dependent on your existence or identity through him, so now you have split, you feel out of sorts.

Having somebody feel like they are apart of you is great, but you are always a whole person without them, or you should be. What you are feeling is understandable but all it means is that you have to do the work to get back to yourself, get back to realising you are a whole person and can survive without being emotionally tied to somebody else.

Be gentle with yourself through this process. There will be many times you feel like you miss your ex to the point of distraction, but don't let this side rail you off the tracks to emotional healing, it is just a part of the healing, accept it.

Make a commitment to heal and grow form the relationship and your experiences, it is the only way forward. Try and create some space between you and your ex if you can. Seeing him all the time at this stage will interfere with where your focus should be.

You have had a very special connection and will always have a special connection, but not necessarily a relationship if it isn't meant to be. If you are meant to get back together, it should only be after you have both done whatever necessary healing is needed.

I hope you get through this difficult time with as little sadness as possible. You will feel happiness and even joy in your heart eventually, but only if you do the required healing and growing.

Believe you can heal and that things can get better. :0)

I really love a girl, but unfortunatly..some stuff happen between us and its seem alsmot impossible to be together....i just want that girl...please advice...

Fred

A girl is NOT a possession, she a person with her own needs, wants and desires. It doesn't matter how much you want her, she has to want you just as much. A relationship is an agreement between two people, not a possession of one of the other.

Whatever has happened between you, you have to work it out and make amends. You haven't told me what has happened so I don't know if it is serious or not. If it seems to you that it is almost impossible to be together, then chances are it is and you simply have to except what has happened between you.

If the girl is showing that she doesn't want to be with you, then leave it be. Don't pester or harass her in an attempt to try and change her mind. If you love her like you say you do, then love her enough to respect her wishes and decisions.

Learn from what happened between you and her and don't repeat the mistakes. :0)

Dear StarBright...

about a year ago, my ex broke things off with me over the phone. My world came tumbling down and of course, like many others, thought my life was over. I am past that now and truly want to be friends.

Since then, my ex and I tried after months of her giving me silence, no reponses no nothing, to "just trying to be friends" on her terms of emails and texts. What kind of friendship is that? Well, in February I went to visit friends from where she used to live when we dated.

This would be the first time since the break up, well, she unnannouncedely showed up. Mind you, we had been talking up until this point. She claims she didn't come to see me, rather another friend, however, I let her approach me that night for she had no idea I saw her out of the corner of my eye when I walked in. She said that she coudln't give me the "fairytale" I was looking for. Just recently, I came into contact with her again. She has only seen me once since last October, and for the frist time since February she replied to an email of mine. She finally said she was sorry and that she took full responsibility for what happened to us and how she handled the situation. She just isn't ready for any distractions right now for she is on a journey of self discovery. I COMPLETELY understand this and told her that. I explained that I have a new interest, but we both are scared to push things. I really like this new girl, we click, she communicates with me, we laugh and have fun. We both recently this past weekend saw our ex's at this huge festival with over 3000 people.

Of all places, we see them, (separately of course they don't know each other). My ex caught eye contact with me while I was walking from the restrooms. I just acted like I didn't see her cause I had mixed feelings and I was like what??????? We never spoke, but my heart still fluttered a bit when I saw her. I think about her all the time, but with her silence I'm not sure if she feels she made a mistake, seeing me with someone else, or if she is happy I'm out of her life.

She just kept staring at me as I was walking alone back from the bathrooms. I could see it out of my corner of my eye. Her friends were talking about my new interest, asking..."is that her....yeah, that's her", and when she came back from the bathrooms my ex was up there and then we put two and two together and realized they were wondering if my new interest was the one with me.....so, my question is, (and thanks for listening) is my ex going to reneter my life so we can work on things from scratch. I've forgiven her and never stopped loving her, but I know she needs to continue to figure out who she is more....but I realized I know my she still has my heart after all this time. Should I just leave her alone and possiblly hurt someone I'm with, but has potential for more. Will my ex ever return as my partner in life?

Dear Kelvis

I thought I could talk! lol No, it's nice to see a man that can string more than 5 words together and can be bothered to explain things.

Well, this sounds like an american high school drama! You two obviously have unresolved feelings that are getting in the way of you moving on. I don't need to be psychic to no that you will never move on from this unless you release the hurt from your ego. I have yet to meet a man that has gotten over a woman finishing with him, but if you don't it will blight your life forever and you will miss out on many potentially wonderful relationship with other women.

I think the way your ex broke up with you was weak. If she can't even break up with you face to face, well, she can't think much of you.

She has said she needs space to find herself and I can see this is what she needs. You should let her be free and you should get over her and enjoy your new relationship. The new girl sounds like a great girl. Don't mess it up because you won't get over your ex.

It's nice that you still feel you love her, but just because you feel this does not mean you should get back together. If you love her, you

will set her free form the emotional ties you have to her. If you

date your present girlfriend with your ex in the back of your mind, I guarantee it will not work out. You have to set yourself free from your ex. Your attention has to be on your new relationship. You can't wait for your ex, she has her own journey to live. If it brings her back to you, then so be it, but you waiting and pining for her will not make that happen any faster if at all.

This is what we call a lesson in love. And whata ya know, there's a song for it.....

LEVEL 42 - Lesson In Love

Im not proud, I was wrong

And the truth is hard to take

I felt sure we had enough

But our love went overboard

Lifeboat lies lost at sea

Ive been trying to reach your shore

Waves of doubt keep drowning me

All the dreams that we were building

We never fulfilled them

Could be better, should be better

For lessons in love

For restless eyes egos burn

And the mold is hard to break

Now weve waded in too deep

And love is overboard

Heavy hearts token words

All the hopes I ever had

Fade like footprints in the sand

All the homes that we were building

We never lived in

Could be better, should be better

Lessons in love

If we lose the time before us

The future will ignore us

We should use it, we could use it, yeah

Lessons in love

Lost without love

Lessons in love

When will you ever learn

Lessons in love

When theres nowhere left to turn

Lessons in love

Dont let your spirit burn

Lessons in love

Ill wait till you return

All the dreams that we were building

We never lived them

We could lose it, we should use it

(lessons in love) lessons in love

All the homes that we were building

We never lived in

Could be better (could be better), should be better Lessons in love If we lose the time before us The future will ignore us We should use it, we could use it (good God) Lessons in love

You can learn this lesson in love the hard way or the easy way.

Either way, you have to learn it. Be mature and have a talk with your ego which is leading you astray right now. Give yourself and the new girl a genuine chance. You will regret it if you don't.

Good luck in making the right decision. :0)

Dear StarBright...

I feel I am at a crossroads and don't know where to go. I have been thinking about moving and changing jobs, my sister is going to war again, I have no love life, and the relationship with my father is going down the tubes. I feel in between/lost and don't know where to go. I do want to be involved with someone special, but nothing is happening in the love department. I want to share my love with someone special. Please help!

Dear KJ

I am sorry to hear about your problems in your present situation. It sounds like everything is falling apart around you. This is indeed a crossroad time for you.

One complication you don't need right now is a relationship. You have a lot of things on your mind to sort out and you need to sort out what you want to do and where you want to go before you start "looking for love". Avoiding this right now is particularly important because you are confused, missing a sister and not communicating well with your father so you may use a relationship as a crutch or a distraction to what is really going on with you. If you use the relationship for this, then the risk of it all going wrong is higher. You don't need the extra heartache and pain.

Crossroads are tricky. They are good on one hand because they offer us options and a change of direction, but bad on the other because we are always in some level of confusion as to which option or direction to take.

One thing about crossroads I have learnt is there isn't really a right or wrong road to take. It's really all about being brave enough to choose a road and to follow that road through to the end in faith that it will bring you where you need to be.

If your sister has gone to war and you can't reconcile with your father at the moment, then this is a perfect time to move city and change jobs. Maybe this is where you will meet your special person who you can have a lovely relationship with.

One thing I would advice is to settle things with your father before you go. The relationship may not be where you want it to be, but if you love him let him know you love him and care about him and how you regret how things are now, but you hope one day you will be able to work things out. If you feel you can't tell him verbally, then write him a letter, which I think is a good idea either way because if it is written down, he can refer to it again and again. If you make your peace with your father you will be able to go forward without anything weighing you down and this will leave you open and emotionally free to starting your new life and a possibly new relationship.

I just want to refer to something you said in your letter. You said that you have no life and that nothing is happening in the love department.

People HAVE to change their perception of what love is and how it should come to them if they have any hope of having any emotional and spiritual quality of life.

LOVE is absolutely EVERYWHERE! You don't even have to look for it, you just have to be open to it. If you are open to it, love can bless and nourish your life every single day.

Romantic love is an illusion, it's nice to experience but it doesn't hold relationships together. People need to stop seeing this as love and start to appreciate the real deal, which can come from anywhere from a flower, to birds singing the morning chorus, to a smile from a stranger, to somebody asking how you are (and meaning it!), to cat coming up to you and brushing against your leg, to somebody giving you their seat on a bus, to a child drawing a picture especially for you, to a genuine compliment or gratitude, to all kinds of things. I can go one, but it will turn into a book! lol

Most people wait for a relationship to experience love (that normally ends with the realisation there was never any love) and ignore all the abundance of love around them. People can't say they don't have love in their lives, when it is all around us, unlimited and free.

Take your crossroads head on and good luck with your journey! :0)

Dear StarBright...I just needed sme advice. My boyfriend just left after 5 years. I really believed that he was my soulmate but in the past year it has been only me that has been showing any type of Love.

I hurt so bad...please help

Dear MW

I can imagine the hurt you are feeling. 5 years is a long time to be with somebody.

It sounds to me that your relationship with this person has simply ran it's course. The last year you spent with your boyfriend sounds like he had withdrawn and was probably trying to give you hints that it was over, but you just kept on showing him love whilst he decided to stop showing you any. You say he has just left after 5 years, but really he left a year ago, but you ignored the signs.

You hung on, maybe hoping he would change, but he didn't, now you are left devastated by his departure. Yes, it will hurt, but don't wallow in it and think it is the end of the world or your life. Process all the feelings you are having, have a good cry, but look to your future.

You may have had a wonderful relationship with your ex boyfriend, except for the last year, so you should be happy you met and shared good times, loving times, happy times, funny times, silly times and even sad times.

He probably is a soulmate, but not the soulmate you will spend the rest of your life with. Soulmates come into our lives for all kinds of reasons ans seasons, so don't feel bad that he has left, feel good that he even came! ;0)

You are going to hurt, but don't let the hurt immobilise you or close your heart to future relationships. Don't mooch around, get out and about and spend time with any good friends if you have some, or go to experience some art like visiting a gallery, or seeing a play or a dance performance. I find going to anything artistic is healing, comforting, centring and inspiring.

You just have to allocate a little time to grieving, then take stock and move on in a positive way, baggage free. Life goes on and who knows what other soulmates may be out there for you in the future.

Real LOVE is never lost. It stays with you for ever. :0)