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Week 14, 21 July 2008
 Dear Aunty
Elle...
my bf passed away 1 mo. ago. I'm doing ok. but do you see him saying
anything to me?
 Dear
af
It seems that he is happy about how you are coping... I get a sort of
matter-of-fact, ho-hum, no worries-take it in stride feeling... (as if he had
passed away in another past lifetime when he had been with you then as well and
is used to this situation!) so I believe I can correctly say he is not an
anguished spirit although I believe he checks on how you are from time to time
without constantly being around.... when you are ready for another relationship
with someone, rest assured that he will be happy for you if you find a soulmate.
Now if you would like a sign from him perhaps you should ask him for one and
then he may be willing to say good-bye in that way... or, perhaps he will
manifest himself for a long time to come. Butterflies, birds or even stronger: a
paticular smell or the unlikely appearance of something would be a sign...
I'd like to add that I asked my mother to let me know that she was with us on my
daughter's wedding day (she'd passed in California on Oct.1 and the wedding was
4 days later in Paris, France- my mother could not have come because of her
failing health- had she been alive.... I had had the difficult and painful task
of keeping the secret of her passing to honor her wishes that nothing should
keep the wedding from taking place.) Anyway I asked her to let me know she was
with us by showing me yellow roses on my daughter's wedding day. The wedding
colors were off-white with wine red accents so all the roses were to be deep
red... however when the curtains drew back on the alter in the Parisian Armenian
church, we could see it overflowing with yellow roses! And then, at the
reception the cake was supposed to have deep red roses, well, you guessed it...
instead of the wine-red roses that had been ordered, the cake was adorned with
yellow ones.... the cake that we were supposed to have was nowhere to be found!
My husband's sister passed away and hummingbirds have been with us ever since-
every time we especially miss her. Over five times, one has hovered less than a
foot from our eyes, facing us!
On another occasion yellow butterflies flew in a ballet around Darla, Paul's
sister's autistic grandaughter for us all to see. Darla was flower-girl at
Paul's and my wedding. She was to scatter silk off-white petals from a basket
she was to hold.... well she held the basket and scattered the petals alright
but she also carried one stemless real rose that she had picked without
permission... and it was bright yellow.
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle...
I just found out that I have not been accepted into the university which
I'd applied to... It is very disheartening... RIght now, I am writing an appeal
letter with fervent hope that I would get in this year... If not I would have to
wait until next year... Do you think the appeal would be successful?
Dear
CJ
Everything has a reason and sometimes, a span of generations is sometimes
necessary to see the big picture in some cases, however in the case at hand...
Have you considered that perhaps the best for you is not there at that
university this year- be it teachers,friends or opportunities? Perhaps you need
to grow a bit beforehand... or perhaps there is better for you elsewhere, have
you considered other universities- other paths? Perhaps you want to go there for
the wrong reasons...it seems that some soul-searching is required at the moment
and above all: no moping around, waiting, lamenting or doing nothing! Find ways
to improve your qualities and your knowledge so as to be prepared for what is to
come... if the university you are yearning to enter gives the possibility to
attend classes without credits, then apply for that, asking permission and
support from each professor and then FAITHFULLY attending, taking notes and
observing... even though there is no diploma reward your very attitude may very
well open doors that would have otherwise stayed shut! Have fun!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle...
I am a very lucky person. I have a great support system, both friends and
family and a job that i love. I have been able to manifest many blessings in my
life, accept for two...
I was just wondering if i will ever be a healthy weight and if i will ever
find a soul mate?
I'm not expecting exact details, i guess i'd just like some reassurance
that they are both possible, and perhaps some sort of time frame.
Thankyou for your help,
Bek.
Dear
Bek,
You know that I often draw from my own or friends' experiences when feel
compelled to give examples. The answer to your request about your situation is
one of such times. In 1986, in France, I was like an athletic model... eating
health foods, gym 2/3 hours 4/6 days a week and practicing both alpine and water
skiing whenever I could as well as learning to windsurf...when, all of a sudden
I began to gain 4 pounds a week until I reached a size 26! I tried all the
diets, over 15 doctors- one a year for fifteen years! The 15th doctor's method
was the one that finally worked for me, coupled with the expert diagnostics and
treatment of the 14th doctor, a metabolism specialist. Now, it seems that you
will never reach model proportions (nor will I!) but you must make it your hobby
to find the right solutions for you. Perhaps you think that money is a problem
but you must leave no stone unturned because, oftentimes there are ways of
getting around, over, under or breaking through the financial barriers.
Moreover, every time I wanted to buy something, I asked myself if I wanted it
more than getting back to healthy again... I went shopping in thrift stores to
stay as attractive as possible for as little money as possible and when I
finally lost weight, I donated all my clothes to such places. I feel that it
depends on your courage and perseverance- even stubborness- to get to a weight
that would be better for you... most probably less than 15 years but all the
same, quite a while... HOWEVER, it has nothing to do with your finding a
soulmate... I had a professional actress friend in Paris who was a size 30P and
she was beautiful to her tall, slim, handsome companion and, last I heard, they
are still together. All this to say there are men who prefer to feel round
generous forms rather than hard angles.There are even match-making, matrimonial
or soulmate seeking sites for curvy, heavy-set, even extremely over-weight women
and the men who prefer women that way. My advice to any woman who goes on any
such site (whatever her age, shape or origin) is that she MUST state clearly
that she is a one-man woman looking for a one-woman man and that she wants a
committed life-long relationship with a proposal, wedding and all the trimmings
with the man whom she will devote her life to... in short: no flings. In that
way, with kindness, humor and a true heart you will weed out the jerks and the
pervs and find the wonderful man who is looking for you. It is not easy to do
anywhere else excpt online, so go for it!
Check out my tips for online soulmate seeking among my other replies and have
fun!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear RW
It seems that your "gut feeling" could be a part of the problem. So many women
have such mixed feelings about having a child that their bodies go on Pause...
sometimes they have to see doctor after doctor and then finally give up after
undergoing all sorts of tests, treatments with genuine heartbreak; or they can
find no physical reason for the absence of a pregnancy... And then, they decide
to adopt only to have a baby on the way, once the adopted child has been with
the couple for a while. I am not saying this is exactly what is going on... I
just think that thorough exams, therapy and even hypnosis or acupuncture in
concert could be a great help toward a successfull "happy-end".
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear
Aunty Elle...
I am recently married and we have started trying for a baby. My gut
feeling is that I will not find it easy to concieive if at all. Do you have any
feelings on this for me?
Dear Aunty
Elle... i m swati sharma....plzz tell me wich is good field for me... is film
industry good for me..
Dear
swati
You might have a limited success in the film industry if you accept to be what
you don't feel like being. However an annex business having to do with
exportation seems to be a better path.
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle... I will really like some advice please. I am separated from my husband
for a year now. There hasn't been any contact tho I tried on numerous occasions.
Since some time has gone I have decided to get back out there again. I am with a
guy who I like but am not sure about his feelings for me....he's shy and isn't
like most guys who are expressive or hands-on. For example he'd walk all around
the room and eventually come and stand next to me,rather than just coming and
stand next to me. I know I am getting attached to him but am wondering if I
should continue as I don't know where I stand with my husband and I really don't
want to hurt this guy (I've told him about my situation). Do you think I am
being selfish in dating before my situation is resolved? (Last August I
contacted my husband about his decision and I received no reply).Thank you
Dear
GG
Neither your hubby nor Mr. "Walk-around" are for you. They both really seem to
be giving you the run-around! The latter is trying to pretend that you don't
count so that other people will think of him as free and unattached and that you
are no big deal to him. You should really treat him the same way...because he is
really just one of all the guys you can have. Your hubby doesn't deserve you
either...and his male pride swells every time you run after him while he is free
to go from woman to woman. I feel you are getting no respect from them. If you
like, you could keep Mr "Walk-around" as a stand-in since he really doesn't seem
to care...
I personally feel that you should turn the page with them both, throw the
book at either one and move on. You deserve a soulmate who will help you and who
you will help... someone who will be proud of you and who will
always want to be by your side... You could find him on Mate1.com or on the
beach, so "stay out there" and keep your eyes peeled!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle...
I am currently confused with my relation with a boy. i don't know if my
writing to you is right or not I am very confused currently. I love this boy.
Initially he was the one who approached me and I used to avoid him because I was
not sure of my feelings for him though I was attractec to him. Finally I gave in
and accpeted him in my life though he officially never proposed. Now after 4
months we are very very close, he knows me and understands me quite well, cares
a lot 2, but now he says he doesnt love me and I should not wait for him, though
he is in touch with me dailyand I am quite a part of his day, and he tells every
event that occurs in his day or life.I once did try to leave him but he is quite
persistent in keeping in touch with me and not letting me get out of his life. I
dont know what to do, should I leave him or give him more time? I am very much
into him and it hurts to think of detaching myself from him could u please help?
Dear
EK
There are men like that. They collect women and obssess about all their exes,
calling them and checking on them... keeping the women in an emotional limbo
that keeps them unfree to move on. This makes the men feel more secure; it
boosts their ego and reassures them. Such men childishly need to constantly be
reasurred about their ability to "get" women. "Your" silly guy is so selfish! He
is using you as a mother or a therapist! He cares nothing about your problems.
Tell him that you are sorry but that you have decided to reserve your friendship
and your time only for the man who will marry you, then answer no questions that
he may have because he has no right to any answers or explanation, say good-bye,
hang up and use your answering machine to filter your calls or change your
number. He will probably run after you but he doesn't deserve a crumb of your
affection or attention since he himself says he doesn't love you and all he does
is vampirize you. You deserve so much more than that self-centered nut-case!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle... I have a great life and I am grateful for every opportunity that has
come my way. I feel guilty for wanting more but I yearn for a more meaningful
existence. I'm not talking about material possessions because I'm fortunate to
have a successful career. I want to feel excited to get up in the morning about
the day ahead, I want to be proud of what I've done at the end of the day and I
want to feel like I'm making the most of my talents. Do you think I'll ever have
the courage to take the giant leap of faith and do something wonderful with my
life!
LOL
LJA!
Just do it! Jump in and swim... or spread your wings and fly!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle...
I hope this time I will get reply from you, regarding my situation.
I am single mother-have a girl (seven years)since the devorce from my ex-husbant
(6 years ago) I cant move on with my life...I cant find job,although I try to be
positive, sometimes feel like big presure is taking my breath away.I would like
to receive some inside of my situation, particulary, regarding my and my girl's
health, and would be very happy to hear from you. Please...
Dear
Zulieta,
It seems thatyou should look for a volunteer job with the Red Cross or Medecins
Sans Frontieres ( Doctors Without Fronteers ) or some such organisation;
it would then be extremely likely that a paying job would open up and that you
would be well placed to get it. Moreover, I feel that help for your daughter
could be connected to such a job as well.
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle...
I met a man he seems amazing and very sweet. Is this serious with me as he
seems like all the things I want. I don't want to get hurt again.
Dear
pc
You really must find it in you to forget the past and live the present as a new
life. Let what will be unfold- enjoy without a thought for how long it could
last, and learn. Don't put all the weight of the future on what could unfold...
let whatever it may be blossom and cherish each instant. This man could be an
angel just passing by to help you go forward; however depending on what you
learn, he may vry well be the one who would share a lifetime with you! Relish
these moments and know that there will be others.
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle...I feel like I am wasting my time on relationships and career goals. I
tried real hard to win awards at work and it really seems like there was some
type of favoritism going on there...Ive changed jobs and now I work midnights
and I am a single parent...it has been a struggle for me these past few weeks
and I am contacting you in hopes of my efforts not being useless...romance...I
am single but I don't want it to stay that way...do you see any hope for me? My
life has been so weird lately that I have to look to the future for
encouragement...thank you
Yes
CR!
Of course I see hope for you! Try online connections... mateone.com is free for
women. Times are tough... make friends whenever and wherever you can ...and
don't be afraid to tell people about yourself!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear,
Stunning Elle...
Two months ago you advised me that my guy was unsuitable. (He actually
resembled your ex-husband !
I totally agreed with your advise, and found the courage to leave him.
However, I could not feel peaceful, as my instinct warned me that he had
skeletons in his closet.
One night I dreamt of his email password (yes !!!) and snooped into his
emails. He had kept my email letters only, but among his contacts I found 3-4
hotline girl emails. According to the pc files, before he met me, he was
actually chatting as a Pay-Member of Foreign Adult (xxx) services.
I am furious, as I want to tell him that he's no angel, as he described,
but a dirty old man.
On the other hand, searching his email was not right. I feel bad about
myself.
How can I get even, or how can I get over the guy? There are so many guys
out there, but my mind is set on the dirty old man, his promises, lies, and time
wasted.
Please advise !
Oceanis
Dear
Oceanis,
They say, "All is fair in Love and war" OK That is very debatable but you were
duped and it was only fair to do what you did... Use his password again and
delete all your letters... then forget him. Time is on your side!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle, I recently met a man. To be more accurate: He was my old next door
neighbour. I met him 3 times during the time he was my next door neighbour and
chatted a minute or two each time. Then he moved.
Then walking home from work one day, i ran into him. We chatted for about
3 hours. He walked me all the way home, which was out of his way. He has my
number and will be calling me soon for our first outing.
He is a good man. We have an insane amount in common, he makes me laugh
and he has a lot of qualities that i look for in a man.
I am confused as I am moving in November, to go back home. So to start a
relationship at this point would be foolish.
I asked my angels to bring into my life someone to be my friend and also
someone who would help me move my stuff back home, as i don't drive and have to
ship it all.
I'm confused as to why he was brought into my life at this time. Any
advice?
Thank you kindly for your response.
LOL,
SD!
It seems that your prayers have been answered... let things flow and live the
present. As it stands, your free-will can change the course of events. If you
like what is happening and you say you do, then why worry?! Any number of paths
can develope from this one: a friendship, a romance, a courtship...or all at
once - slowly or lightning fast. The fact that you are moving makes no
difference if it's meant to be. My hubby and I were born in the same county, yet
we met online when we were 9000 miles apart!.. and I don't think we hold the
record of long-distance courtships! Just trust in what comes when it comes to
answer your prayers without building a whole castle in the sky laden with
what-ifs. Let it all flow and enjoy!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle... I am a married man but was having an affair with a lovely lady called
Marie. However she gave me an ultimatum to leave my wife and find a flat to live
in alone. My wife had been very ill and the time was just not right. That was a
year ago and since then Marie doesnt even want to talk to me and she tells me
she has found someone else. I think about her everyday and think I have made a
terrible mistake in not leaving my wife.What should I do?
Well
WAE,
It was a noble thing you did not to leave your wife when she was so ill...and
now you have found out how deep Marie's love for you: no deeper than a
puddle! You can tell her so. Perhaps she thought you were untruthful about your
wife's illness since tons of men use that excuse to keep a mistress and not
divorce...
I know a woman who divorced her husband to live half-time with a man whose wife
was ill...when his wife got better they continued to live that way and that's
been going on for over 20 years. Another such case I know of: it begins the same
but the man in question is always looking for greener pastures, so he has ended
up with a harem he can't afford. Last example but not least: the man loved his
wife dearly... she had cancer and had had to live without much of a stomach for
years. He worked and slaved to keep her as healthy and happy as possible so they
enjoyed life together that way for many years. In the meantime a woman was
married to a man who she dearly loved. He fell ill and died. She grieved him for
almost 2 years. The above man's wife died suddenly and he grieved his loss until
one day, the widow I mentioned came to his place of work and heard him talking
about how hard it was to deal with it all. She went to him and gave him her
number saying they could talk as she was experiencing a great loss too. Now they
are together... what am I getting at? It's not about what's politically correct
according to society, it's about what's right. You did what's right. Continue.
Your wife has given you years of help, friendship and solidarity... affection
and a sort of love. Maybe not the kind that you would like but at the time it
was your choice. Men often leave their wives for someone else. They find it hard
to believe that women often simply leave. It would be wonderful if men would
admit that they had made a life-choice mistake and not use another woman as a
get-away car. It is best to stand by a spouse and then, when things are going
more smoothly, to get a divorce going as matter-of-factly as possible. Split the
estate and say that you will always be a friend she can count on. Then you will
be ALONE and free with a clear conscience. THEN you can let another lady into
your life...
NOT Marie! LOL The perfect woman for you will come at the perfect time- a woman
with the same elegant moral code as yours... you will go together like a fine
pair of gloves.
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle... I wished in my life I had a Aunt to talk to but, I am known as the
daughter with "mystery" behind her. The daughter that will not talk to anyone
about what is happening in her life...if they only knew they would be so
dissappointed and this could lead them to get pretty sick to know that their
daughter is not well.
I have been in love with a man now for 20 years on and off romantically -
why this never went further was the fear of having this man known to my family
him being a biker tattooed the sweetest guy but not the guy you would introduce
your family to. Especially being italian background - he is now living with
someone else was back in my life roughly for 2 years but, most recently we had a
argument and basically stopped talking ... its over again..We both have never
really sat down and spilt the beans on the table - I have some secrets that no
one knows...I only wish for my life to get better - will it - broke family and
him does not know this - in love with a biker - so many secrets and I am dying
inside - lost and not myself anymore - my face is showing it more and more
All I wish to know will it get better - on a budget - shut down all
internet access to buying on line eg. ebay - going back to night school to get a
better paying job to pay off this debt that is so bad ......will it just get
better...I am just so scared of life these days!
I know you saying just tell everyone I can't this will kill my family and
friends - maybe just pack up and run...
Dear
Dee Dee
This my dear is a letter full of love for you; TOUGH LOVE! I am no fool! You
would do well not to insult everyone with your codescending opinions of them! It
is not very nice of you to think of your biker as a person whose mere passion
would upset your family so much it would kill them (the scandal part is
something you get off on, don't you? Admit it!) and it's not nice of you at all
to say that your family is so narrow minded. You have fewer secrets than I ever
had! 20 years! You should be married to your biker by now... Italian- a problem?
...like guess who's coming to dinner, a Martian? A tatooed biker ? Big frickin'
deal! ...OH and with a sweet heart that he is probably too proud to admit that
you broke BECAUSE YOU ARE SUCH A SNOB THAT YOU ARE ASHAMED OF HIM! Who do you
think you are fooling? Not me! Only yourself. Your family knows more than you
think and they are only saddened by your ways. You have the attitude of a silly
child! Wake up and be brave! Grow up and dare to live!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle... I feel like I am going insane over this situation. I met this guy in
March of this year - his birthday is May 1, 1984 and mine is April 3, 1964, and
it was love at first sight and other kinds of feelings that I have never felt
before. When we went on our first date, it was the best date I have ever had. He
is incredibly handsome and funny and outgoing and people, especially women, love
him. He does have a bad side, though, he likes to drink and has other NASTY
habits that I don't feel too comfortable with either. He fell in love with me
early on in the relationship and said that I was the women of his dreams and
then all of a sudden, he stopped calling every day, we stopped seeing each
other, he began to be very secretive -- another women, perhaps? I don't know. I
had a reading from a psychic and she said we were soulmates and he was very in
love with me and loved being around me and saw us getting married. This man and
I didn't talk for about a month, he didn't call and I didn't call. One day out
of the blue he called and wanted to see me and acted like nothing had ever
happened and I asked him what he had been doing and he said that he had gone out
with some girls, to try and get me out of his mind and try to make me nothing to
him, but it didn't work. He said he got scared of me and ran. I didn't talk to
him for a week after that and he called me one night and I went to see him and
it was just really weird. I left and didn't talk to him again for about a week
and then he called me and we went out and he said that he had been going through
some things and that everything would be different now. He asked me to go to
dinner and a movie the next night. I didn't think he would call because he does
that and I made other plans. Well, he did call and I didn't answer the phone. He
keeps calling and I won't answer the phone. I don't want to get involved again
if I am going to get hurt like in the beginning. He really ripped my heart out
and I don't want to do it again. I guess what keeps me hanging on is the fact
that several psychics have told me that we are meant to be together and we are
soulmates and I'm afraid I may let my soulmate go, but I cannot continue on with
this on again off again romance or whatever it is. I have met another man whose
birthday is February 27, 1968 and he is nice and funny and we get along really
well and I could see myself spending alot of time with him, but I just don't
know if I could ever fall in love with him. We are kind of just friends right
now. There is attraction and chemistry, but not like it is or was with May 1,
1984. I really just don't know whether to let May 1, 1984 go and continue on
with February 27, 1968 or what? Please help me before I go crazy. Thank you
Dear
k.
"1984" was your angel to wake you up ...and it was rather lust at first
sight...with a sort of here and now love going on. He thinks it and believes
that here and now is not with you anymore...but he wishes it weren't so. You are
and always will be the woman of his dreams ...and a soulmate.. but not of this
life. Be happy you were together... perhaps later when he knows you are happy
and that you have taken another path- perhaps then you will be able to be
friends at a distance... We have more than one soulmate;
"1968" is the path to take in this lifetime... unless "1984" gets down on one
knee and asks you to marry him! ....not!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
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