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Week 15, 28 July 2008
 Dear Aunty
Elle...
I wrote to you before as well.. I am praying this time it reaches you..
I am living through a very bad marriage, which has broken me financially,
physically and emotionally. Cannot find a way out of it, since my husband is
fine with the lifestyle we have and keeps full control on the finance and all
other assets..Also, we met a high priest a year back, who I thought was showing
us the way to amend and improve our situation.. I had put all my faith in the
high priest as he I felt was the first person, who saw through the situation,
and proclaimed exactly what I have been going through with my marriage and my
personal well being...and that he would stand by me and help me see through my
situation, get myself financially and emotionally regain a foothold..
All was fine till a month back, when he completely took a reverse turn and
persuaded me to work hard to keep the marriage going..as well as pressed to
conceive right away. [ We are childless now..
Aunty Elle, I've been through a difficult childhood with a violent father
and step mother.. I have failed in love and broken down..this marriage initiated
out of love I had for my husband.. which I realised was a fatal mistake as soon
as we got married.. I was persuaded by his parents and him and I have stayed
disillusioned now for all these years..
Is there a light at the end of tunnel..? I have immense faith in
spirituality, but I wish to know if the High Priest on whom I had put complete
faith, has a motive or reason to change his mind on the course of action..as he
also speaks to and councels my husband.
Would you be kind enough and advice me as to which course should I take..?
I do need some help now ma'm..
Thank you.
 Dear
'Confused and in Need'
High Priests are imperfect and human, as am I... however your husband's
eloquence and money cannot fool or sway ME!
Ask the High Priest why 'he completely took a reverse turn'... ask what caused
him to change his outlook. If you really want a change, leave with
nothing...find a way... get your husband to pay for a trip (to a place where you
would find it easy to start over.) for example. Or you can do as I know many
women have done before you: stay....if you like, you can tell the high priest
you feel emotionally and financially insecure, if your husband wants a happy
marriage with children, he should start a family by showing you love and
respect...then perhaps you would not be childless. Then do just as your husband
did to fool the priest.Get the high priest to persuade your husband to make a
bank account just for you. Don't ask the priest directly for these things but
tell him as much as you can to influence him to speak to your husband and advise
him to give you more money for yourself and more responsiblity in your household
with decision making authority... and tell the priest that women want to give
birth to children who will be fathered out of love and that often women remain
baren in spite of themselves when they are not trusted, loved or respected even
when they try to have children out of duty. I am saying all this because if you
start being a strong woman and not a boring victim, and if your husband even
starts pretending to give you love and respect ( encourage him with flattering
words and clever, loving actions and attitude) you will most probably obtain a
wonderful result. You will be reprogramming him while he believes he is
influencing you and what was once a ploy will progressively become sincere if
you play your cards right. It seems that your husband doesn't trust you enough
to love you and he needs to learn so be patient with him...but a child will very
probably not come until HE has changed so YOU must change him by changing
yourself... Leave or stay...your choice: you are at a crossroads where several
futures are before you.
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle...I have a most generous husband who I know adores me but I have been so
incredibly bored for so long I feel like I am slowly suffocating. I had the
tower and the devil come up in my tarot reading but I am so not sure I want to
start over after 20 years. Do you have any advice for me?
Dear KJ
Wow! My answer is DO & GIVE ! Initiate things that aren't boring: learn to
drive a race car and race, or learn to cook and travel to cooking schools all
over the world, anything that is exciting...try to find the artist in you and
create. So much for doing... Do you have a friend who is going into chemo? Throw
a huge party in that person's honor... do you know any interesting bored elderly
people? Visit them and interview them about their youth... do things to wake up
and surprise your hubby... The tower and the devil are about tearing down the
bored boring you andrebuilding a new you!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle...
When I went for my job interview, I told my boss that I was 14, but I
still had about 1 week before I really turned 14. I was 14 when I started
working, but now we have these tax return forms where we have to write our
birthdays down and I'm scared that I'll get fired because I lied to her, even if
I'm 14 now. Do you think she'll fire me?
Dear j.z
Congratulations on your job! Say nothing unless your boss does... do your
job well... you knew that you were about to be fourteen and so you just
rounded off! It was not really a lie- I say my next age when I am near my
birthday too, and I am not trying to get a job nor do I find my age
particularly flattering as I am much much older than you. People don't go
around saying they are thirteen years, eleven months and three weeks old!
And people don't go around firing people for just rounding off so my answer
is: No I don't think she will fire you because she won't even pay attention
to your age on the forms!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
Dear Aunty
Elle...
I'm really worried about when I moved back out on my own. I lived out on
my own for close to a year. I had money troubles, but that's not what I am
worried about. It's the fact that I was so lonely. I don't have any close
friends in my town at all. Last year I got laid off from my job so a couple
friends I have in the city offered that I could live with them until I got back
on my feet. I loved living with people my own age. I was never lonely. There
were two weeks that went by when I was laid off where I didn't talk to anyone
but my cats. I got seriously depressed over those two weeks and was depressed
because I needed people to talk to, I was alone, penniless, cold and hungry.
Then my friends came over and saw the way I was living and offered me to live
with them or else they would tell my mother how I was living. I didn't want my
mom to know about it because she was having bad money problems herself and
didn't want to worry her or my older sister.
I'm living back with my mom now because I have a job so I can help her
out. At the end of August I am moving back out in my old town. I found out the
city life wasn't for me. Although eventually I am going to go back for school. I
was accepted this year but couldn't get a loan because of credit card debt. They
told me to reapply when I don't have it anymore. I was accepted into school so I
will try again when I am better off finacially.
I'm just wondering, for the next year or so if things will be better. I am
going to be back in the town where I have no friends. My mom doesn't want me
moving to the city anyway, so I am staying for her. I'm just scared of having
that depressed lonely feeling again.
Not many people will give me the time of day because of the way I look. I
am not a pretty girl, I've tried changing my appearance but it doesn't help. I
am 21 almost 22 so people around my age are still around the shallow age. I've
noticed people older then me will be my friend. I befriended people ten years
older then myself in the city.
The thing is unlike the city, it's harder to find friends in a small town.
My small town doesn't do any fun community events where you could meet people.
The bars aren't that great.
I'm also wondering if I made a big mistake. My friends introduced me to a
guy and he liked me but we couldn't talk to each other. After about five times
together we were still sitting there staring at each other trying to make
conversation. We could only talk if our friends were around. So I decided that
we couldn't connect and he lives to far from me so I figured I shouldn't pursue
it. I am almost 22 so maybe I should have just stayed with him? I've never had a
bf before him. He was the first guy who didn't care about my looks because he
wanted a girlfriend too. I'm almost thinking he would have went with any girl my
friends introduced him to because he was looking for a girlfriend while we
'dated' because I wanted to take things slowly. But maybe I should have just got
with him just so I won't be lonely this year.
I did a tarot reading telling me I was going to meet someone later and in
the winter time it told me I was either going to give birth or concieve...
obviously it's almost August so it won't be a birth. Should I listen to that
one? When I do a cartomancy reading on here it keeps telling me about joining of
the souls.
I am just so confused about myself right now. I don't if I've made a big
mistake turning from the only guy who liked me... just because I didn't think it
would work. I am so scared of having that awful lonely feeling again. I just
need a friend... I don't care if it's relationship or just friendship. Just
someone to keep me sane and happy. Maybe I will meet someone in apartment
complex?
Dear
AD,
It seems that it is good for you to be living with your mother because you can
help her and save money as well. The bf in question is not the one for you, it's
true. You have a lot to say so join mateone.com (it's free) and post a truthful
and positive profile about yourself, and choose your favorite photos of yourself
too. Then have fun getting to know different guys. Check out what I have to say
about online soulmate seeking (I recopy and paste it once in a while because it
has many useful tips so as to find great guys while avoiding most of the jerks
and pervs). Then have fun!
As to the "give birth or conceive" part of your reading it is not always about
babies! It could be a new you, a new way of thinking, a new life-plan, a new
idea that will develop and bloom into success...
Bountiful blessings!
Elle
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