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Dear Aunty Elle... I have recently given up my job, my home and movd to Korea to teach. I really didn't like it there and came home. Now I feel I am back at square one. Will things get better?

Dear Charley!

Hey you are not at square one at all! See what you have accomplished! You have found out that you CAN move out of your comfort zone and that Korea is NOT where you want to be! LOL So many people live with the regret of not having tried this job or living in that place. You have! What is next on your wish list? What would you like to try next? Go for it! So what if you are a gypsy for a while!

Bountiful blessings!
Elle

LOL Your great grandmother!
Who do you think I'd say? Your friend?
LOL Nope!
Bountiful blessings anyway!
Elle

Oh J.D.W. it seems you don't have it anymore! I mean it's not with you anywhere, not even hidden. It was inside something that was disposed of.
That's what I get... but I also feel you should not be needing it anyway!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle

Dear Aunty Elle... thank you for replying to me. I am such a coward i still have not spoken to the person i like and still quite afraid that the answer will not be the one i want. being single is scary and quite dauting. Maybe he is not the one for me and i just cant see it yet. Should i wait and see what the summer holds. Some friends know him quite well should i ask them to do cupid for me and leave it to him. or have i just answered my own questions. SOrry to bother you but it kills me that i am so shy around him. Pleas advise.

LOL LD you are cute!

Like I always say... it won't hurt to try! Anyway what have you got to lose? You have everything to gain! A soulmate, a friend with whom you walk a ways together and/or PRACTICE! Your friends playing cupid could work... sometimes it does but friends sometimes spoil everything without wanting to. You know it seems that he is as shy as you! I get the feeling that the friend thing would be just too much for him and he'd shy away when under more discrete circumstances he would not shy away from you.

Bountiful blessings!
Elle

Dear Aunty Elle...

I keep getting very strange feelings, within my heart. It's not anything health wise. But, deeper than that. Like, it's trying to tell me something regarding my love life or something.

My question is: am I destined to be single and alone for the rest of my life. Or, am i going to find true love and future happines. Very soon?

thank you.

adam.

Dear Adam

It seems that your own intuition is telling you to be ready for your soulmate! ...so you had better start getting ready! Get a nest ready, preen your feathers and make sure that you can show the lady of your choice a pleasant time... Get a move on! Maybe learn to sing, dance or play the guitar for example. Enjoy this time of adventure! If you are not good at dating, invest in a matrimonial website membership. Put your best foot forward without telling any tall tales. Say that you are looking for a serious reletionship. Then don't be in a hurry- enjoy getting to know all the ladies who return your interest in them. It's very possible that you won't have to wait long... Above all: HAVE FUN!
Bountiful blessings!
Elle

Dear Aunty Elle... I left my job last February because the working contract had come to an end . Since then , I am having a very hard time finding a new one . I went to two interviews and they didn't call me back . I am so worried and I wonder when I'll finally get a job again . Do you have any advice please ? Thanks so much .

Well my goodness SA

It seems you are looking in the wrong place... I don't have as clear a notion as usual - nevertheless I am compelled to say it has something to do with flowers... now if they are real or fake or in picture form,
I can't say... It was a flash and now I cannot be sure... usually I don't answer at all when this happens but something tells me this time it might help... now it might be about perfume, or concerning funerals, or a flower service for public places, or a cemetary... or a florist...or a gallery, or landscaping... nothing disagreeable mind you - but a bit out of the ordinary...follow the clue of flowers.

Bountiful blessings!
Elle

Dear Aunty Elle...
Last year I interviewed for a new position. It was my second interview and I really thought I had the position. The next thing I know is that they filled the position with someone whom was politically connected and at least 15G more than I would have asked.
I'm hearing rumors that the people of that town are not happy with his performance.
The current position I am in, I would be the next in line but I would have to wait until the Director retires. Rumors surrounding his position dictates that it would be someone politically connected to get that position.
I would like to know where I am heading career wise. Will something come out of this where I am presently working, or should I hope for the other?

Oh my goodness JAM!

It rubs against your grain, I know, but it seems that where you are, promotions to the higher, more influential posts are predestined for those who are politically connected... so the logical thing to tell you would be that you should become politically connected if you want such a position.
Nevertheless, do it only ever so slightly, as I think the political scene will be changing in the not so distant future. You could very well end up replacing a person who has reaped nothing but dissatisfaction... however it is indeed a delicate chess game so remember to be diplomatic and discrete at all times. Dress as if you already have a higher role. Behave as though responsibility and wisdom are what people can always expect from you. Use positive language. Keep your tongue in check even under festive circumstances. It will certainly be complicated with many a banana peel placed upon your path. You will most likely succeed if you remain vigilant and radiantly smiling.

Bountiful blessings!
Elle

Dear Aunty Elle...
I recently met a man (MP) that makes me very excited whenever I think about him. I have not felt that way about anything or anybody in many, many years.
MP's wife recently left him, and I am divorcing my husband.
Do you think MP likes me enough to ask me out? Will he ask me out? Could he be my soulmate? He and I have flirted a little on a few occassions. MP is the sign of scorpio and I am cancer.

I really like him and would love to get to know him better, but he hasn't made that move yet, plus my divorce isn't over with yet either.

Well that's good news Debbie!

It seems that the synchronicity of the universe is at work for you both... wait and see. Don't jump the gun. It seems that he is waiting for things to evolve...and for your divorce to be final. He will need reassuring and a bit of encouragement... and you will need to be reassured as well, so take your time. You could be the one to get the ball rolling... ever so slightly.

Bountiful blessings!
Elle

Dear Aunty Elle...

i m a 17+ yr old girl, or should i say a young teen ..who has always dreamt big!,..i know it is very common for girls of my age to do the same, but what is surprising is that many of my friends have made it big in life already!! one of them is a television anchor and another is a winner of a beauty pageant.!!! i havent tried my ambitions seriously, but whenever i do, my parents alwayss discourage me saying all these "thoughts" will disturb my studies. i am a medical student..what do i do???i m lost/...and confused!!

Well well D.M!

Your parents do mean well and in many ways they are right, except to say that you should forget your dreams! They are worried for you because in so many of those fields of dreams there are many who dream their lives away without ever being able to live their dreams. Just look at American Idol and all the waiters and waitresses in New York and Los Angeles who are hoping to become actors... sadder still the artist whose paintings never get bought and that end up in the garages of friends and family(BOTH the artist AND the paintings!). Your parents are trying to save you from that mediocrity and despair and that comes from a very good place: LOVE! Nevertheless, they are also refusing to bet on you and your dreams. If I were them, I would bet on both tables and help you in both directions as far as you could go- on the condition that you would try twice as hard to succeed in them both ... in that way you could end up like that actor who is also a lawyer or that banker whose art is very sought after... or even the doctor who writes bestsellers. There is a book called "The Artist's Way" that was very helpful to me. (My parents had thought I'd make a better secretary than actress, painter or even English teacher...I ended up being able to be all three) The Artist's Way was a help to set me free from from the old chains that my parents never realized they had fetered me with... and I got to taste freedom. I've chosen Love and painting and I'm flying at last! Now don't put my reply under your parents' noses, saying, "SEE!?!" Just get the book, read it, underline what rings especially true for you and then leave it lying around open... for weeks on end LOL. Most likely you will be successful in medical school so hang in there- the first year is the worst because it is a filtering year. You would indeed do best to give it your all! I believe they make it very arduous every three of four years to weed out the weaklings so hold tight and buckle down whenever the going gets rough... HOWEVER never ever let go of your dreams! You will most probably be able to have your cake and eat it too!

Bountiful blessings!
Elle

Dear Aunty Elle... my name is Iulia..i am very sad, please help me...i don't know what the man i am in love now, Dumitru is thinking abut me, because he doesn't want to talk to me anymore, even if between us wasn;t any kind of fight! please, help me to see the truth...

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Dear Aunty Elle...
so, i'm in love with this guy...but i have a boyfriend,. this guy i love, we've kissed, spent some times together,... he told me he loves me too, but we're not together. why? will we be together?does he love me? what am i supposed to do with my boyfriend?

Oh dear! putri!

It is making me feel centuries old just to remind myself of how men are in reality until they reach the age of THIRTY! Mind you, some become real men at the age of 23; but they are few and far between. Others stay selfish almost heartless little boys almost forever. Usually when a young man says he loves you it is because he is willing to say anything to get any kind of sexual favors from the young woman he is with.
Why isn't he with you? Because he is "with" other women. It is as simple as that. If he loved you, really loved you...he would bend over backward to be with you all the time and he would ask you to marry him.
Your boyfriend loves you enough to at least stay available to you. If he really cares about you it is wrong to cheat on him; it is not right to keep him hanging on just to be sure to have a boyfriend. Think about both of them. If they were really sick, gross, yucky sick...would you clean up after and take care of either of them? Would your heart ache to see one of them ill? Or would you rather not see him until he was all better? Now you know the truth ...if you haven't fooled yourself. You are not ready yet for real love, nor are the young men who kiss you- you are simply getting ready LOL No big! Just make sure you don't become a mommy before you are ready to become a wife! Don't worry! I know it's not easy but you are learning and you heart is in the right place since you came to me for advice because you do care.

Do you know what empty-hearted men say about marriage? They say: "Why buy the cow when you can have a free glass of milk any time you want?"
Do you know what love struck men say? They say: "Why even glance at a burger-joint menu when you already have a gourmet feast at home?" Even men in love have sex on their minds LOL

Bountiful blessings!
Elle

Yes Rachel... the wheel turns... sometimes we wonder what else will come knocking at our door to beat us down into the ground while at other times happy miracle after miracle comes our way. Tell yourselves that we are all here to grow from the hard lessons as well as from the happy ones. I have learned that when things are going well - we must not take them for granted nor gloat about it. We must be humble and grateful...and search for the lessons hidden within all that lucky bliss... because if we simply content ourselves with basking in it... we will inevitably get burnt... for we are all in school, and, if we don't learn when it is easy we will have it pounded into us hard, and harder still until we get it. Got it? So now we must work on passing love around and making each others dreams come true, because it really really can be done.
Bountiful blessings!
Elle

Dear Aunty Elle...
when i was a teenager i was abused sexually and it was so traumatic for me i turned to drugs. After many many years of addiction i tried to free myself from it. I have now, but i still keep making wrong decisions, everyone tells me i am talented, but i don't really believe i am. I really want a
stable job for once in my life. Will i ever be happy? Thank for listening. I just wish someone could see that i'm trying really hard and give me a chance that's all.

Dear Sakura honey!

This trauma, and the drugs (which added on other trauma) left scars.
All I can say is I can feel where you are coming from...and I know it feels like drowning. You can get out of the depths and surf the waves of your soul if you only decide on it! You can be so proud of yourself! You have left drugs behind and now you are trying so hard. Bravo. BUT... now you must stop trying. Let me quote Yoda LOL:
There is no TRY, there is only DO.

Now you can get stubborn and re-program yourself! Enjoy who you are!
You are not Sakura, the abused victim on drugs! She is gone! Brush off the dust of the past and look at your wonderful self! You are a winner...
Did you hear your inner voice protest and say "No I am not!"? Tell that voice she is a liar and to go away... because behind that voice is another softly saying... "I can do this, I AM talented, I deserve happiness and love." There is a book that helped me called "The Artist's Way", it could help you to enjoy this new adventure of finding your own wings and learning to fly! Now make it a hobby of finding a stable job. If you can, join as many free meetings in help-groups that may be useful to you: post traumatic stress, drug abuse, job hunting, self affirmation, charm class, public speaking, positive thinking.... Go at it step by step. Speak in those groups as often as you can. Study people who have effective speech and body language and copy them. Force yourself to walk, speak and talk as if you already are successful and happy. You will be reprogramming your heart and soul via your body! Then study which groups left you with a happy positive outlook and energy to get up and go, then consider which groups left you shocked and discouraged: never go back. Then try to recognize the dangerous people who want to convince you and who seem helpful but who set off flashing caution lights within you. Study them and study yourself and suddenly you will recognize your progress! Read what I wrote about job hunting. Be sure to remember to manicure your hands with pale polish and wear subtle make up. Smile and force yourself to be positive...make direct eye contact when shaking hands with twinkling eyes and a smile. Avoid slouching and fidgeting with your hands... don't pull at your sleeves or hair. Speaking of hair: choose a hair style that will keep it out of your eyes. Keep your head up and walk with a bounce!
Study your inner voices... the real one from before the abuse is still there. You will make fewer and fewer wrong choices...and even from those wrong ones , you will learn, grow and you will be valliant, happy and strong as a result! ...and you will help others too!

Bountiful blessings!
Elle

Dear Aunty Elle... I have recently given up my job, my home and movd to Korea to teach. I really didn't like it there and came home. Now I feel I am back at square one. Will things get better?

Dear Charley!

Sure they will! Hey you are not at square one at all! See what you have accomplished! You have found out that you CAN move out of your comfort zone and that Korea is NOT where you want to be! LOL So many people live with the regret of not having tried this job or living in that place. You have! What is next on your wish list? What would you like to try next? Go for it! So what if you are a gypsy for a while!

Bountiful blessings!
Elle

Dear Aunty Elle...

Trying you again. I hope that you can answer me.
I had a wonderful life back in the country of my birth. I was a successful Singer and Actress with a burgeoning career. I did not even have to audition for things I had reached to a point that I was being asked. Then the USA beckoned and I decided to seek my fortune here. I got scholarships and praise, but have struggled constantly for 18 years not performing nearly as much as I should, and making little money. I now yearn to return to my little country(this time with a new family) and hope to regain my artistic success there. Can you see what is in store for me Aunty Elle...I do not even know how to get back there as moving from country to country is difficult. Help!

Dear SW

When speaking of the Home of our youth, they say you can never go back... but you can go forward! What happened back then, when your birthplace success was within reach, has happened to so many! A big singing star, nationally famous in France (and who sang wonderfully in English), left France for Hollywood and ended up singing in Piano bars.
He came back to France and has been able to live modestly off his faded glory, but he will never be the super star he once was. The trends have changed and he has aged. Another Superstar stayed and is still the French equivalent of Elvis even at the age of 70! They also say it is better to be the biggest fish in the pond than to be the tiniest in the ocean... but that is all water under the bridge for both you and me! What is done is done and our lives have been filled with many lessons learned and many rewards as well. As for me I have come back to California after 36 spent abroad- after a wonderful life in France, with fantasic experiences and stuggles falling into my lap time and again, however, as I have not tried to go Home, I have gone forward all the same. I have never been so happy. It does not mean that I have an easy life; life is still a struggle to accomplish what needs to be done. All this to say, a leap of faith is all it takes. Don't expect to find what you left. Prepare to go back; get an agent back in the country of your birth. Look up old contacts. It will be a struggle... but you will find rewards- not the rewards that are bestowed upon a promising 25 year-old talent, but rewards and respect all the same.

Bountiful blessings!
Elle

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Week 9, 16 June 2008